This is an article that was sent in by one of my readers who wishes to remain anonymous.
This was done because of a previous article I wrote about this subject on oppression.
I remember from my earliest memories my wonderful mother curling my
hair and picking out these princess-like dresses for me to wear for
school….I would have rather been outside playing with my brother and
cousin in military fatigues with my face painted green, black, and
brown. I shook my fist at being girly and feminine. My childhood dream
was to join the military. I loved the environment (or my imagination
of that environment).
I ended up joining the military. Taking an oath to protect and obey
orders. I began my year long training by going to basic training. I
was given uniforms….oh wait, the man behind me got the same ones.
There were three different articles of clothing in the main uniform
that were different. I wore sports bras–the men did not. I wore
granny panties–the men wore briefs. I wore women’s running shoes–the
men wore theirs. Besides my haircut and buttocks, you couldn’t tell
which gender I was. I wore the same uniform, exercised the same way,
and was treated the same as the men in the unit. I did this for months
while in training. No civilian clothes. No differentiation besides
menstrual cycles and different sleeping quarters. I couldn’t stand it.
I couldn’t wait until I could put dress on….to feel beautiful….to
not look and expected to act like a man.
The day came where I could leave the fort and go into town and buy
civilian clothes. I headed straight to the dress section. I bought a
beautiful outfit and had one of my friends fix my hair (because I
didn’t know how to do anything besides a pony tail, bun, or leaving it
down). I got earrings and a necklace and even put some perfume on. I
look in the mirror—A sigh of relief– I feel like a woman again. I
never knew the importance of how we dress, look, and act. I am a woman
and need to dress, look, and act like one. Men are men and need to
dress, look, and act like one. You don’t think it matters?
If you don’t think it matters please respond with your experiences relating to the consequences of women being masculine and/or men being feminine.
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I most certainly agree that women need to get out of the way of men, and let them be the men they need to be. This is a humble, honest, and great post.
Ravished Heart Journey
I’ve been tossing this idea around for a few months now, debating on my courage to step out and write a blog about it. I was holding back from posting because I didn’t have the answers I thought I should have; I wanted to present a new idea with new passion and new revelation.
But the truth is: I have no idea. I do not have a firm grasp on what it was intended to be, how we’ve messed it up, or how to progress out of it. Please, though, can we just talk about it? Because honestly, does anyone know?
Has our inability as women to walk in femininity resulted in the quenching of men’s ability to walk in masculinity?
ility, inity, ility, inity…. What does this even mean?
Here’s what I am trying to get at. Ladies, how often do we complain that our men aren’t…
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This is a terribly sad and tragic thing. My heart goes out to everyone who is lost in all this confusion….
“Are you a boy or a girl?” my mom whispers into the phone, afraid her roommate might hear her question.
“A girl,” I say.
“You ARE?” she asks, as if she can’t believe it, as if it’s deeply upsetting for her.
“How long have you been a girl?”
“I’ve always been a girl, Mom.”
“I never knew all this time that you were a girl,” she says, a note of shock in her voice. “Does it bother you to be a girl?”
“Does everyone else in the family know you’re a girl?”
“No one ever told me.”
I don’t know what to say to that.
“Do you look like a girl?” she asks.
“I guess so.”
“Do you have long hair?”
“No, I have short hair.”
“Do you dress like a girl?”
“Umm … yes.”
“Do you get your period and that kind of stuff?”
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I am sure many of you are familiar with the movie G. I. Jane. I am embarrassed to say, I used to love that movie. I always love a good story about someone who succeeds when the odds are stacked against them. I think everyone does. And a woman is most certainly going to have the odds stacked against her, trying to go Navy Seals. A woman is not a good as a man, she is not man’s equal. Not in this sense. She was not made to be his equal; not in regards to strength, combat, or manhood. Nor is man meant to be a woman’s equal in beauty, femininity, and womanhood. But so many people think that that would then make women inferior to man.
For some reason, we cannot accept that fact that men really can do some things better then a woman. And vice versa. And because I am pointing that out, I must be a male chauvinist. Unfortunately, these mentalities are in the reformed church. Unfortunately, there are many in the churches who think that G. I. Jane is a hero, and a wonderful model; as long as she submits to her husband and goes to church on Sunday.
I now see how the move is nothing but liberal feminist propaganda. G. I. Jane, Navy Seal extraordinaire, is a man, not a woman, regardless of how much she ‘submits’ to her husband. It does not matter if she puts on make-up or a dress when she is in the home, she is not a woman but a disgrace. Our society esteems her as a success; but she is a failure. But she is a perversion as a woman. She is doing a man’s job in a man’s world, where a woman does not belong. And yet, we want to train women up, and put them in combat. The police force has been doing this for a while, trains women for combat, and sends them in to do what they should not be doing. If you don’t think it’s ‘combat’ then I ask you, what do you call it when people shoot people? Which results in death? By definition….that is combat. Why do we have so many so called ‘Christians’ who support gay marriage, a women’s supposed ‘right’ to kill her child and women going into combat? Anyone who supports women in the military and the police force is wrong; for combat is in the job description. In case no one noticed….
Now, maybe you disagree, in fact you probably do. If nothing else, I am sure you’re thinking that I am being too harsh. You are free to believe and espouse your beliefs about what you think a successful woman is compared to a failure; if you believe that a woman who is president or a Green Beret is a success, and that a stay-at-home mom is a failure, you are, unfortunately, allowed to have such a perverted and backwards belief. But rest assured, I will be espousing mine, which, I too, am allowed to both believe and share. A woman who is a man, that is, a Navy Seal, or a cop, regardless of how much she obeys her husband….is a failure as a woman, for she is a man, not a woman. I will never see it any other way. Men are no longer men, because women, are no longer women. I pray that we as a country repent of this horror.
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Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. — Proverbs 31:30
Now that I have grabbed everyone’s attention with the previous post about stereotyping, let us continue to discuss and dig into this matter. In Proverbs 31 we see a wonderful description of a woman who is of great value, a rare jewel. One can argue that this was written for women; that they may strive to be like this. And one can also validly argue that it was written for men; that they may have a model to base their search on. It was written for the edification of both genders, that everyone will benefit from it.
Today, I would like us to take a rather different sort of look at it. Charm is deceptive, beauty is fleeting. This passage is assuming something. It is assuming that the reader needs to hear these words. It is assuming that either the man needs to read this because he is so obsessed with his looks, and his beauty, and his hair, or it’s assuming that the woman needs to be told that when looking for a man, to not be shallow; pick one that is more than just a handsome hunk. Wait….I think I got the stereotypes backwards. No, Scripture very clearly is saying what we all know to be true…that women as a whole, in general do have a tendency to care an awful lot about their beauty, sometimes too much. And men as a whole, in general tend to fall for a good looking woman, instead trying to see beneath her skin and into her heart. Now, if I were to say these things to people, it would be deemed words of wisdom. But if I say that women tend to struggle with vanity….how dare I stereotype….shame on me.
I want everyone to understand that stereotyping can be done in a wrong, ignorant, and sinful way, just like everything else. However, this stigma, this antipathy towards stereotyping is neither healthy nor wise. The Holy Spirit generalized, knowing that many women struggle with vanity, and in fact, they do so more than men. This is not an unfair or unjust generalization of the genders. We have to realize that sometimes stereotypes are good, sometimes they are right, and sometimes they ain’t fun and the truth just hurts. Tomorrow, Lord willing, I will be able to come out with the final post on this short series on stereotyping, which I hope will be edifying everyone.
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