Imagine with me for a moment, while I walk with my son, trying to teach him that a man does not hit a woman. Not a real man that is. I imagine the conversation might go something like this;
DAD “You see son, a man doesn’t hit a woman. It’s not right. A man is supposed to be protecting a woman.”
SON “Why?” As he looks up at you with the ever curious eyes that a child has.
DAD “Well son, it’s a man’s job, his God given job. It’s wrong for a man to hit a woman because men have an unfair advantage, being stronger. It’s just the way God made men and women. The strong must protect the weak, if you don’t, that’s bad.”
As we walk by the boxing ring that my wife is in, a cop who is training for her job, fighting with another man, my son looks at me and asks;
SON “What about Mommy? The man over there just hit her and she is hitting him back!”
DAD “Well, kiddo, Mommy is a cop and is training so she can protect people, so can protect men and woman out there.”
SON “Men like you Daddy?”
DAD “Well, yeah…me too, men like me.”
SON “But what are you doing to protect Mommy, are you training too? You said a man protects a woman.”
SON “Johnny at schools says his mom is a soldier and in combat, do people hit her? Do the bad guys know that they can’t hit her Daddy?”
SON “Why is she protecting you Dad, if your supposed to protect her? Is that her God given job Daddy?”
What do I tell my son? We all know that that boy will see what his mother is doing as a masculine thing, even if he has never heard the word ‘masculine’. It should be clear that this reversal is a very unhealthy and dangerous one, emasculating men, and confusing boys and girls. The line has been crossed the line that separated man from woman. We need to redraw those lines.